Wednesday, May 29, 2013

We have our own dreams


What is your name?
My English name is Tommy. 


How old are you?
I'm thirteen years old.


What are you doing in this time of life?
I prepare to go to Singapore in August for my future. I will study there for maybe ten years.


Why do you want to go to Singapore?
Because my parents want me to go abroad to have a better life.


So then after ten years will you come back and live in China?
Yeah, and now every year I will go back to China for one time.


Have you already decided your career?
Maybe I want to be a doctor.


Tell me about your family.
There are four people in my family. My parents, my grandmother and I. My father is a doctor and he is a Christian. My mother in some way, she also is a doctor. My grandmother was retired. And I now am studying English  hard to go to Singapore.


When you're in Singapore, where will you live?
I will live others' house, maybe it's my friend or teacher. It's a host family.


How do you feel about moving to Singapore?
At the beginning, I felt excited but now in my opinion, it's difficult. I should learn English very well and change my mind from Chinese to English. I want to think in English.


What are you doing this week?
This week I stay in Drew & Rachel's home because I want to improve my speaking skill and also writing skill, and try living with a host family. Something miserable happened. My mobile phone was lost! On Saturday I will go to my mother's home, then on Sunday come back here. 


What do you like to do for fun and relaxation?
Maybe now I like to play computer games for fun. For relaxation, I like listening to some music.


Tell me something interesting about you.
I went to Hainan Island before. I stayed in a hotel near the sea. Everyday I swam in the sea. In that time I learned how to swim. I remember I was eight years old.


Describe your personality.
Most of the time I'm active. And when I encounter some unhappy things I also can be optimistic. 


What are your favorite foods?
I prefer to eat meat, especially sausages. As for vegetables, I like to eat some broccoli and lettuce. 


What are your favorite snacks?
I like some french fries with milk. 


Do you like to exercise?
Recently I do exercise every day. I run every morning and after supper I ride bike for one hour. But before I was lazy. 


Was your dad mad when you lost your phone?
No. My dad also was optimistic and he said he will buy a new one for me.


How did you lose the phone?
After English corner when I was in a taxi, the phone fell out without me noticing.


Do you know any jokes?
No. I forget all the jokes I have heard.


Tell me about your classmates or friends.
In my childhood there were a large number of friends the same age as me. After class we played together in the field. Sometimes we also played computer together. Now we are separated. We have our own dreams, so we can't help each other like before.

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Tommy is staying with us this whole week, visiting his mother on Saturday. So far it's been fantastic! (Except as you read, he lost his phone.) We'll let you know how the rest of the week goes.

counting the graces
thank you Father for
loving the little years -- lessons, wisdom, refocusing 
friend delivering rehydration drink for Drew when he managed to get dehydrated with a bit of heat exhaustion
calling in sick and just staying home
ice cold water
morning lying in bed peacefulness
young polite bright self-sufficient helpful houseguest; a present and admirable big brother for our boys
ferns
'tis so sweet to trust in Jesus
sudden cool blustery showery day to thoroughly refresh our bodies, welcome repose from heat
whole family hundled around reading a storybook together, Titus Mike and Jon listening intently and smiling
thermal comfy pants
waves and smiles from the postman
cheery friend Yang Cong who is always giggling and eager to hang out
Yu Qian sensitively and genuinely reaching out, trying to make me feel included and affirmed
everyone enjoying the dinner I cooked which, remarkably, turned out to be scrumptious -- asparagus mushroom chicken
Drew in red dress pants, color for the office

Friday, May 24, 2013

Go Mai-Mai


We are really on a roll here with bicycle-related content!

Mai-Mai pedals his red ride everywhere we go. He's grown fast in the past couple months, and today both he and Jonathon registered for fall preschool. Mai-Mai's been saying, "I is go 小班!" (How do you like that sentence, half-English, half-Chinese with fledgling grammar...he means that he's going to first-year preschool class.)

This guy has transformed from my two year-old adversary into my almost three year-old best buddy. He is helpful, reasonable, polite, and cooperative.

Any statements about my children's behavior come with a crucial "most of the time" disclaimer!

Today, he's not been happy. It's only 93 degrees, but already Mai-Mai's developed a nasty case of heat rash all over his body -- the worst on his face. He looks like that fourteen year-old boy with the awful painful acne and you just feel sorry for the kid. Three extended bucket baths each day should cool and restore his skin soon.

I love this video. It's a memory of what I do many mornings in this season of life -- a trip to the vegetable market with my little boys, and hanging out with my good neighbor friend Yang Cong and her son Rui-Rui.


counting the graces
thank you Father for
sympathy-love notes/calls from my siblings
assurance "you're doing a good job at Tuesday night English corner and we like it"
lily and elegant vase from two really cool local sisters
running water
cool watermelon
meeting Qu Ya, who I've passed on the sidewalk so many times, and now we're finally friends
shared wisdom from expat moms who have homeschooled before me
just jolly thinking of Drew rafting on the river with coworkers on this beautiful day!
Auntie Wang to help when guests come -- she saves me an entire afternoon of prep and a late night of cleaning up
the knowledge: if I get nothing else done today besides loving and caring for my children, it was a wonderful and worthy day
realizing that I can never become a Chinese person, of course! and that's alright

Tuesday, May 21, 2013

There's only one plausible outcome

...when boys with bicycles meet swelling groundwater. 


counting the graces 
thank you Father
peaceful passing of Grandma Ruth, and a special time for mom and grandma together
Auntie Wang's stories
sleepy Jonathon nodding off in his high chair made us laugh
loving-leader husband never escalates or ignores a conflict between us; he is determined to keep us united
fresh waffles sold at the market
Mike is expressing himself more and we get to hear his ideas and see more of his unique personality
Mike says, "I is go 小班" (I want to go to first-year preschool)
pastel hydrangeas downstairs
5:00am sunrise
desire to know Jesus, not just knowledge of commentary on writings about him
humbled again because I am an outsider, sojourner, guest in this community
anticipating, feeling of being on the brink of change and clarity

Thursday, May 16, 2013

4 Happy Birthday Candles


Our kids have developed an amusing habit of qualifying all birthday things as happy. "I want to eat happy birthday cake!" "When is gonna be my happy birthday?" "Can we open happy birthday presents now?" 

Jonathon blew out FOUR happy birthday candles last week!

Happy birthday morn started with a 6:30am big box opening.




Yeah! Got that new tricycle ready to roll before Dad had to be out the door at 8.
Jonathon is all about his new wheels and is already racking up big mileage.
(kilometerage? we've gone metric!)






Our motivated happy birthday boy polished off a bowl of sprinkle-coated ice cream, using a spoon, all by himself. This was an impressive and encouraging accomplishment for Jon; swallowing is tough business for him.




A happy birthday box arrived from Minnesota. Now our three boys sleep with blankets handmade by Nai Nai (Drew's mom) and on pillowcases handmade by Wai po (my mom). 

Titus had been asking for a kite, and in fact we planned to buy one this very day as a reward for doing his English lessons. When Jon opened his box, Ye Ye & Nai Nai had sent...a kite! God loves you Titus.




On the weekend we invited a few little friends over for Jonathon's happy birthday party. Two little boys from Butterfly Home came! I think it was a unique and valuable experience for them.

Crafts, games, cake & jello, singing and gifts -- Jonathon and his troop loved it all.
I think the happy birthday boy felt very special indeed.








"Thank you Wan Wan for my new hat!"




Jonathon perpetually dazzles us with his progress and enchants us with his gregarious personality. He has inner strength and resilience that I know nothing about... he's got more heart and character than anyone I have ever met. And he's barely four years old. 

Jonathon still needs a family to bring him home for keeps. As a friend wrote, Jonathon is both at home and waiting for home. He is safe and loved here with us and we have treated him with total sonship. But he really needs a permanent family. If you are potentially that family, please contact your adoption agency. Jonathon's file is classed as special focus, and you can find out more about his story on the Butterfly Home blog.

(We his direct caregivers cannot communicate with you in accordance with international adoption regulations. Thanks for understanding.)

counting the graces 
thank you Father for
Drew's new routine of riding bike to and from work every day
"he has washed us with his blood" yes, my sins are washed clean, even today's
surprise visit from two good friends, one with a burden to release
jammin guitar and violin with Drew, he is extra good-looking with that violin...
boatload of positive response emails from friends in the USA
being able to "stay home" with my children
rainbow in Changsha -- our first sighting! it was enormous! everyone was taking pictures with camera phones like some sort of spectacular phenomena!