I've only lived in China for a year and a half. When we moved to China, I knew that I'd likely experience culture shock, and I intentionally took on the attitude of a Chinese culture-learner. I thought that returning to my home culture, for this summer, would be natural. But in fact, I'm surprised at how difficult it was in the first weeks.
Part of the difficultly is related to my role as the home-manager mother. In Changsha we are just a little family of three -- very independent and autonomous. While our extended families are gracious, accommodating and kind for allowing us to stay with them, I miss being Mom of the House.
Another part of the difficultly is related to my role in the community. In Changsha my purpose is very defined and every day feels rich, full of relationships and seeing Abba work through me. Here in Minnesota, I want to be a servant, encourager and disciple-maker, but I feel directionless. Where to start? Who? What are the needs? Where are the opportunities? Our life is divided between Hutchinson (most of our friends) and the Twin Cities (Chinese community). Not to mention I'm having a baby right smack in the middle of the summer.
I am seeking to be thankful and content with the plans my Abba has for me. If you do think of me, this would be a fitting thing to uplift.
Rachel
p.s. today is baby Michael's due date!
p.s.s. Drew is not experiencing so much reverse culture shock -- for a number of reasons, one being than he is gifted as an adaptable, content guy.
Hey there Rachel. Thanks for being honest about your feelings. I also struggle with my purpose during the summers. By the end of summers in the States, I am usually humbled to either have no idea what the purpose of the summer was or to realize that the purpose was way different than I had hoped. I'll be lifting you up.
ReplyDeleteI will be thinking of you as you prepare for Michael's birth and continue to adjust to life in the states. I can relate to your reverse culture shock "Mom of the House" - it was wonderful to have so much family in town after Lucy's birth, but it is so nice to be "Just the three of us" now as life has slowed down a bit. :) Transition is often difficult, but our Father is aware of it all and knows what we can/can not handle. Such comfort. Love to all 4 of you!
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