Thursday, July 31, 2014

Basketball

















First week, Titus looked at me and with a straight face stated plainly, "Mom. I hate basketball."

For someone claiming to hate the sport, he sure had a lot of fun!


Week two.

"Did you have fun at basketball this morning?"

"Yeah."

"Do you like basketball?"

"A...little bit."


It doesn't matter if they grow up liking sports or not, or excelling in any particular activity, but I'd like for them to realize their amazing capacity for learning, enjoy trying new things, develop perseverance, learn how to be coached and corrected, and enjoy playing and working on teams.

This two-week morning bball camp was a very special opportunity, hosted by our preschool's P.E. teachers. Next time the guys are thinking they want to try out Tae Kwan Do! Locally, our athletic options are basically Tae Kwan Do, dance, swimming and rarely, basketball. When they're older they can also try badminton, tennis, and track.



counting the graces
thank you Father for
dusk bike ride with Drew, breezy, sweaty, backroads, together
Auntie Wang so faithful and hardworking even with the power out
true mutual support passing both ways between Auntie Wang and me
freezer ice packs and cold showers
audio book of Luke, while prepping supper and washing dishes
perfect climbing tree
bus rides to Butterfly Home with T&M

Monday, July 28, 2014

Let her persistence and gratitude inspire us all





























"I persevered," she said with a delighted smile, "I've been working for two years now."

You've read Lydia's story a few times on this blog. It's because she is so inspiring to me personally that I have written about her frequently. Lost her family, her legs, most of her fingers, burned her face in a fire at a young age, she spent a couple decades dreaming in the orphanage, enormous potential stored up inside of her. She learned to cross-stitch and demonstrated her persistence and desire to do something through her crafts. Telemarketing didn't work out. But there was something better for Lydia. We connected her with a job at a handmade chocolate factory and helped establish her housing -- a tiny concrete stall with a toilet, washing machine, sink, cabinet and bed, no heating or AC. She demonstrated a great deal of courage and willingness to endure challenges in order to make this work and living situation possible.

Two years later, Lydia expresses deep gratitude to Father and friends for her job and independent housing. This is what amazes me about Lydia -- always a thankful heart! She stays busy in the office or wraps candy in the factory. It is clean, air-conditioned, and kind. A Family business, every day she with her co-workers and supervisor share a morning study. She now has an electric wheelchair so each day she can independently commute a half mile between her home and workplace.

Lydia has grown these two years. Her spirit is lighter, she smiles easier, she confidently expresses her feelings and ideas. Drawing confidence from who she is as a beloved, invaluable, gifted child of God, she believes in her ability to do more than she once thought possible.


Not only are we very proud of Lydia, we have much to learn from her example of persistence, joy and gratitude.


Lydia's Threads -- your very first time to meet Lydia through her own self-introduction; Drew had created a website to sell her cross-stitch pieces.

Lydia Telemarkets -- stretching, trying to break out and find her own place.

Justice Rolls for Lydia -- moving out of the orphanage and getting established in her first independent living, first real job!

Chocolate. Birthday. Heaven. -- chocolate factory open house, and Lydia was the star of the show as many came to support her, including the director of the orphanage.

counting the graces
thank you Father for
chances to encourage and offer a steady arm to friends
change of heart, earnest desire to serve and care for Y&H
cheap hand-me-down mattress
Drew's hugs and intentional words of love and affirmation
Titus independently following instruction booklet to construct legos
understanding parable of persistent widow more clearly, and the call to pray for justice
feeling of not-too-much to do

Friday, July 25, 2014

Nobody But You, Mike


Oh my goodness! I love this kid -- MIKE ADDINGTON! Michael Isaac Addington. Four years old. He is an amazing person. My mind dwells on this boy, growing into man, and I marvel at all the gifts and personality God crafted into one person. Drew and I want to be parents who guide Mike to realize his unique God-given niche. Nobody can be you but you Mike! Nobody but you can do the things you will do! 

Delayed gratification was not a part of this day's celebration -- after scrambled eggs with vegetables, it was birthday cake for dessert! Drew had to work late that day, so he went in late creating a special morning space to kick off Mai Mai's birthday with his personally-chosen yellow chicken in a top hat. (From the bakery of course, we didn't mess around with homemade cakes either.)


Pool party!

With our family friends, Noah & Naomi and their two little girls climbing out on the left there. Pearl was celebrating her 2nd birthday!

We brought along a little buddy from the Butterfly Home who also goes by the name Michael -- the sweetheart in the blue cap and orange shorts next to Drew. I wrote about Little Michael's first big swim for the Butterfly Home blog, check that out here. It was our privilege to accompany Michael through this formative milestone of going to the pool with a family. Watching him play happily made me weep a few tears, pondering all the healing he has and is experiencing.



Pruny-skinned and famished, we two families migrated to KFC for fried chicken and presents and delicious carrot cake made by Pearl's mom Naomi.










Mai Mai received a couple gifts which he thought were spot-on.

A box of Cheerios!
(Imported, purchased online.)



Lincoln Logs!
(Also imported, purchased online.)

This classic wooden toy is inspiring architectural creativity and a wave of forgotten memories in Drew and me. Lincoln Log sets have now been in our families for three generations.



And an exciting parcel all the way from the United States of America!

Mai Mai said, "Thank you! I love new books."


counting the graces
thank you Father for
learning to lean in to you for self-control
reading aloud new books like "Fire Cat" "Small Pig", books that I had as a child as well
four very outstanding awesome grandparents who we ardently love
dinner at the neighbor's apartment
extra long platter for the boys to split and share their cheesecake at opposite ends
done with VBS and it was the best year yet
fun and strengthening conversation with Drew's boss, his presence as a dinner guest in our home
joy pouring like an inexhaustible fountain, I love life all because of You!
boys starting to like basketball more
maturing friendship with Gao Jie
morning push-ups and wild aerobic dancing with Drew and Mike on the cracked wood living room floor

Friday, July 18, 2014

Skypin Solo



Yet another bizarre skill acquired by expat Third-Culture Kids: solo operation of skype as preschoolers.


I arrived home from teaching VBS around noon, the guys had been home with Auntie Wang. "Mom! We were talking on skype with Mandie Gu-gu!" 

They opened just about every program on the computer, hopped on skype and called her up. Which was perfect because, A) she is engaged to be married to Dan as of yesterday, B) it's Mike's birthday today. Both are worthy occasions for one's premiere sneaky independent skype conversation.

Mandie liked it.

Drew was at work Rachel on a walk, these two were in their room with the lights off supposed to be napping they said and they called their auntie on the other side of the world and made her feel like a million dollars! They said they just wanted to see goo goo Mandie and say hi. My heart melted. We talked they giggled, and I smiled. Was able to wish my Big 4 year old Michael a happy birthday! Talk about what he got and what he did! They showed me their AWESOME Lincoln logs and they showed me what they built! That was a special 10 minuetsI will not forget! It ended with Titus saying MOM in a certain tone and Michael shutting the computer screen! I'm sorry if I screwed up their rest time. But at the same time I'm not cause as I thought hey I'm the auntie what their parents don't know won't hurt them! but this was too good not to share! Love those boys!!!




You know what we like? Dan. Mandie and Dan. Married.

He's gonna be our bro! Our uncle! Think about what this means. Dan is in our lives for life. Could not be more thrilled about a lifetime union of Mandie and Dan.

Dan, thank you for committing your whole life and care to Mandie. We're gonna hold ya to that promise dude. And thank you for already being the kind of uncle who would sit on a giant ant with nephews.

counting the graces
thank you Father for
photos of Jonathon happy with his family at the lake
engagement news phone call from Mandie & Dan
happiest day swimming with best friends and M, supper out, family birthday breakfast the next day
sleeping in to 6:30 on a Friday morning
privilege and joy of carrying a Message to students in my class these two weeks
personality of M from Butterfly Home
playing Lincoln Logs with my boys
joy swelling up my heart just walkin down the street, come what may, such a certain hope stored up for what's to come

Monday, July 14, 2014

Nurturing Young Lives




















We are ever thankful for this cheerful neighborhood preschool where our boys can play with friends, learn how to be students, and form trusting safe bonds with teachers. This past semester the boys were in class Monday through Thursday 8:30am - 2:30pm.

Chinese kids spend three or four years in preschool/kindergarten before starting first grade at age six or seven. Titus has completed 3+ years, and he's got another year ahead so he can begin first grade just as he turns seven in September 2015. Our school has a brilliant practice of keeping the classes and head teachers together for all three years, so Titus has been with beloved Mrs. Zeng and Mrs. Gao for that long. Mike just finished his first year, and has at least two more years with his Miss Li and Mrs. Tan.

It's been such a sweet deal. Of all the many graces we have received while living in China, this one touches my heart deeply. 


School's out for summer as of Friday.


Boys' basketball camp began today, coached by the preschool's P.E. teachers. Titus, who had apparently been previously frustrated with his dribbling abilities, was excited to tell me he realized he just needed to pat the ball faster.

VBS at Chinese church also began today and it was such a pleasure. Junior high kids are my students M-W-F for the next two weeks.

Aaaand now we are literally out the door to Butterfly Children's Hospice to meet Drew! go!

counting the graces
thank you Father for
quality time and talking with NKs
fantastic first day of VBS, exceeding my expectations
quiet Saturday sitting around reading books in the living room
thunderstorm
yoga with Drew at 5am
watching a couple cute neighbor boys for the afternoon
meeting up at the pool after school/work
this stage in life being freed up and able to help and encourage moms with younger children